Friend: “How can I bless you?”
Me: “…(long pause)…..What?”
I couldn’t respond, because I had never been asked that before. I had to think about it.
“How can I bless you?” – It seemed like a strange question… at first. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that it is a very good question. It seeks to find out how to love others, which is what Christ has called us to do!
At SYME, we talk about the 5 Love Languages.
We encourage our students to look around and INTENTIONALLY show love to others in the way they best receive it. (Which is often different than the way they give it.)
It’s not a question that we are always able to ask directly. In fact, sometimes asking the question can make the act less meaningful!(Because part of showing love is taking the time to discover the answer yourself.)
I want to become better at loving.
We each have 1 or 2 primary love-languages, so my teammate encouraged us to develop our weaker points:
- Words of Affirmation - Ask God to change your thoughts! Make it a habit to think, write down, or say thankful/encouraging things about those around you.
- Gift Giving – Thoughtless gifts don’t count. You need to spend time finding out what the person likes that you’re blessing.
- Physical Touch - Obviously appropriateness of things like high-fives, hugs and back massages will greatly vary due to timing, gender, etc., but start with your family and branch out!
- Quality Time - Put down your phone/computer, switch off the TV, stash your to-do list, and show someone you value them by giving them quality attention.
- Acts of Service – Just do it! And even if you’re unqualified to assist in the task someone is working on, ask how you can pray for them, then follow through.
I want to intentionally be a blessing every day.
So where does the “glory” come in?
I was struck by a challenge another teammate gave our students last week:
For at least one day, to ask Jesus about everything… EVERYTHING. Whatever you’re doing, thinking, struggling with, excited about — just ask Him what He wants, what He prefers, what His will is for you in that situation; because He has purchased your life. You are His, and you are meant to live this life for Him by His living in and through you!
This takes childlike faith and open communication.
I confess, I haven’t successfully done it for a whole day yet, but the times that I have, I noticed that my thoughts were more directed toward God, my heart was singing His praises, and I was also able to love others better… I was reminded why I live; why I EXIST!
- To glorify God and enjoy Him forever.