我的小夥伴,孤單

這是我從2004年以來第一個暑假沒有VOICE。儘管今年沒有VOICE,我們這些以前VOICE的同工齊聚在聖路易斯州參加Luke和Karen所辦的超棒退休會。每天有一部分是分享上帝最近教我們的功課,透過此事我發現一個令人訝異的共同點:一位小夥伴的陰影潛伏著,在糾纏我們的注意力,緊咬著我們的情緒。你可能不會察覺到它的出現,但相信我,它會意想不到蔓延到你身上。

這個小夥伴是孤單。人們需要團契,沒有團契我們就會感受到孤單。我們可以在創世紀中上帝創造人類這部分看到這一點。在創造亞當之後,上帝觀察並說:「那人獨居不好」。這樣說也許有點毀謗,但就算是上帝祂自已也不足以滿足亞當對共同體的需求。只有在夏娃被創造之後,完整了天堂:上帝,亞當,夏娃和睦相處。

某種程度來說,VOICE的經歷會使許多人了解到他們是多麽的孤單。VOICE是一段緊密的團契關係,一個可以在你的小組裡與他人深入分享的機會,當你回到家之後,會發現以前的生活中有多少團契關係你曾錯過。

現在,當你知道你是孤單地你會怎麼做?

有些人會試著忽略他們孤單的感覺,有些東西像是社交媒體、音樂、和電影可以幫助我們忘記一陣子,但那就像當我們口渴的時候我們會咀嚼口香糖。當然,這會幫助產生一些唾液,幫助短暫的忘記口渴,但最終你真正需要的是水。

有些則會認為只要有另一個更明確的指標,他們的問題就會被解決。當我自己還是單身,我時常對已婚或有約會對象的朋友們投以嫉妒的眼光,思考著有一個女朋友會讓我較不易感受孤單。然而這次VOICE的團聚,我發現婚姻無法讓你遠離孤單,一定會有某些時刻身體或情感上的距離會使你與那些重要的人事物分開,我們會有很多時候需要額外的朋友來支持、鼓勵。

所以你該怎麼做?

第一,了解你孤單的原因。身為基督徒,有兩段主要的關係是我們必須具備的。一段是我們和上帝之間的關係;一段是我們和其他基督徒的關係。哪一個關係是需要努力做工的?如果這兩段關係被忽略,沒有任何東西可以填補孤單這個空缺。

第二,改變自身焦點。花時間禱告,不只是專注在自己的問題,而是思考上帝在你的生活中、在你周遭的人們當中自然且神奇的做工;主動認識新朋友,花時間關心朋友的近況並為他們禱告。

第三,知道身為基督徒,現在我們是不可能感受到真實的孤單。耶穌為我們的行為承受完全的孤寂死在十架上。他不只和祂愛的人被分開,更重要的是他與天父、上帝和聖靈既深且親密的連結完全被摧毀。他的死是讓我們能和上帝有連結,所以現在沒有任何事物能將我們和祂的愛分散。(羅馬書8:38) 對我們而言,孤單從一隻狼吞虎嚥的怪獸被馴服為一位飢餓且只能被我們生命中最重要的關係滿足的小夥伴。

 

作者:Timothy Mu-tien Chen
翻譯:Linda Huang

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關於 Linda Huang

I’m Linda Huang. I’m currently studying in Sweden and was participated in VOICE as a student in 2013 and V2 in 2015. Before going to VOICE, I have always been a normal person, with a normal life. I just followed the tradition of the Chinese people and worshipped their idols. After I graduated from senior high school, I started a part time job. I didn’t know why I earned the money. I just kept working. Then in April, 2013, my elementary school’s classmate Sean Liao told me everything about VOICE. What impressed me the most was that he said “You will never forget anything that happens over there”. He invited me to apply for VOICE that year. I was in a quandary first, because I knew I had to pay the money. However, I thought it might be a good way to know God more so I applied it and paid two-thirds of the money by myself. The first weekend was my first time to go to church. On that day, I fainted because I didn’t eat breakfast. Karen took care of me and told me something about Jesus. She said “Jesus would be your best friend for a lifetime.” which I still remember. Even though it was a little bit awkward that I didn’t know anything about Jesus and never read the Bible or prayed before, but now I know the things that God told me is whoever believes in God shall not perish but have eternal life. God will change us to be the person He designed us to be. He had made preparations for me beforehand for a long time. I also got baptized in 2015 when I returned to VOICE. I will keep loving Him and serving Him. And I hope that I will spread the good news to other people that haven’t heard of it yet. God has truly stepped into my heart and blessed me, giving me a new life and Jesus Christ to hold on to my faith. “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.”. - Proverbs 3:5-6

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